Which is more of an illusion? Safe and secure or Threatened? If you feel over confident you could end up making a mistake and getting hurt. If you are to trusting you could leave yourself vulnerable and compromised. If you feel threatened you end up living behind a wall of suspicion weary of everyone's motives.This feeling can make you shut out anything good. This is a feeling I've lived w/most of my life and am trying to change. And In the long run It doesn't really make you safer, just lonelier.